Many families take vacations during the summer. This time is
more important than many parents may realize.
Because family members have the opportunity to spend time
together, they solidify the ties that bind them to each other. They create new
traditions and build on older ones.
All time with your children is quality time. You donít have to
be spending buckets of money on your child to enhance the experience. Just be
there. Or else.
Or else what? I take a look around me and I see that there are
some prices that individuals and society pay when people grow up not feeling
connected to their families. Here are some of them:
- Graffiti. Graffiti is a plea for attention. It says, "Look
at what I did" and "Thatís mine." Children who have been recognized within their
own families, whose parents have paid attention to their accomplishments, do not
have to make their mark or mark their territory on other peopleís property.
- Tattoos. Tattoos are a mark of identification. The person
with the tattoo has a need to express to both himself and to others who he is.
Why does he have a greater need to do this than all the other people who do not
have tattoos? Because the identification hasnít been internalized the way it has
in families that have given their children a sense of belonging within.
- Gangs. A gang is the family of those people who have not
been welcomed into their own families. People want to belong to a group. If they
donít get it at home, they find it elsewhere.
- Piercing and scarification. These are ancient tribal rites
that give identity to members. Any person who wants to pierce his or her body
will be able to cite many friends who have done the same thing. There is a
longing to belong to that group.
- Loud music. Anyone who has to blare his music at high
decibels has a huge sense of his needs being more important than those of the
others around him. A familyís purpose is to help children get a balanced sense
of themselves in relation to others.